Unselfish USED

Dear Baby,

I hope someday somebody wants to hold you for 20 minutes straight and that's all they do. They don't pull away. They don't look at your face. They don't try to kiss you. All they do is wrap you up in their arms and hold on tight, without an ounce of selfishness in it.

-excerpt from the movie Waitress

Someone once told me that 2 people in love are 2 people who USE each other. It hurt to hear that. Me being the inexperienced and he being the experienced, it turned me away from him. I see where he was coming from, though. It makes sense. You use each other for affection, for a 20 minute hug, a kiss, for a shoulder to lean on, for a pillow to yell into, for a ear to hear you out. I get it. But to USE someone is so selfish-- so self-serving, narrow, asocial, or any other synonym for selfish. That's where he went wrong. Love--true love--should be unselfish right? It should be a two-way street rather than some small one way downtown. And if that isn't so, then it's not love. It can't be.

You can't compare feeling USED to feeling LOVED. Love wins every time.

I guess I've just had this on my heart for a while. Kinda came out when I watched Waitress last night.